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~ My Story ~

How My Story Of Helping Singles Began

Hi! My name is Don Deaner. I work with singles 40 and older and together we create the most amazing and effective online personal ads. The journey that got me to this point went something like this.

Many local singles know me from running my highly successful and ever-popular single mingle dance party events here on Long Island for about the past 10 years now. And for those who may not know me, I'll tell you a little about myself below and how my desire to help older singles has now evolved into www.Help4Singles.com.

What began as a hobby and an idea for getting singles 35 and older together turned into one of the most popular single event gathering successes in the tri-state area, and some say the whole east coast of the United States. These events would eventually reach an attendance of between 200-400 singles for each event with singles coming from as far as NJ, PA, and CT. To this day other event planners still try and copy what I did. That is the ultimate compliment!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Amazing Singles Knowledge Did I Gain From These Events?

These events gave me a perfect opportunity to speak with hundreds of men and women about the challenges and troubles the 35 and older single faces in today's dating scene. I learned so much from the attendees of my events. One common theme that kept coming up was the challenge and unsuccessfulness of self-made online personal ads.

 

This included issues such as:

  • Not meeting the right kinds of people for themselves.

  • Not meeting quality people.

  • Getting the wrong responses to their own personal ad.

  • Getting no responses at all to their own personal ad.

  • How to properly respond when somebody responds to their own personal ad.

  • How to respond to a personal ad of a person they are interested in.

 

***The knowledge and insight I gained were immeasurable.*** 

So Why Were My Events So Successful? Because Of These Core Values and Principals.

  • Value - All you could eat buffet, the most popular venues, the best bands, and hundreds of singles all for $5. Military veterans received free admission.

  • Honesty and Trust - People trusted in what I said and what I assured them. I delivered every time. My reputation was and is stellar to this day!

  • Simplicity - Singles knew what to expect from my events every time once an event was announced. The itinerary was usually always the same except for location and date.

  • Understanding - Understanding what works and what doesn't work and understanding the wants and needs of the single attendees so I could provide them with the best possible experience. 

  • Compassion - There was very little if any, profit made from these events and money was never my intention anyway. I donated my time and energy to help bring singles together so they could meet each other. It worked!

 

And Help4Singles Is Born

Just like what led to the creation of my single events, I was now problem-solving the common challenges associated with online personal ads. This is how the concept for www.Help4Singles.com was born. If I could troubleshoot the issues that I learned about from the attendees of my events, I could make it so much easier for singles, literally from around the world, to meet that someone special. It was that simple. The seed was planted. Create amazing and effective personal ads, give them effective tips and suggestion on how to reply or answer a personal ad, supply some first date tips and suggestions, and at least get them to a first date with somebody suitable for them!

 

I needed to create a simple yet effective process that concentrated on everything that would lead to a first date but I really needed to start at the heart of the problem. And that was the personal ad itself. So that's exactly what I did. The wheels in my brain started turning extra fast. And just like I wanted to help people successfully meet that special someone at my events, I saw an additional opportunity for me to help singles in a different, yet more precise, individual way by teaming up to create awesome personal ads.

 

Along with my own online dating experience, my studying of personal ad creation, my vast educational background, and now my insight from my event attendees, I have a huge wealth of knowledge and experience that I use to help singles create amazing and effective personal ads.

~ Education and Experience I Use With My Clients ~

​Education

  • Stony Brook University-Psychology Degree

  • Columbia University-Health

        Counseling Certification

  • Institute for Integrative Nutrition-Holistic Health Counselor

Experience

  • Singles Event Organizer-10 years

  • Life Coaching/Spiritual practice-12 years. www.purposespeaker.com

  • Suicide/Crisis Counselor-8 years

  • Published author of the ebook What If You Can't Scare  Me Anymore

  • US Army Veteran

  • Veteran Affairs Patient and Family Advisory Council volunteer board member

  • Inventor

  • Reiki Practitioner

Background

  • First-hand knowledge speaking to hundreds, maybe thousands, of singles about today's dating challenges and how to overcome them.

  • My own use of online dating sites and personal ads

  • My own dating and relationship experience.

  • I am an INFJ Myer-Brigg personality type, an Old Soul, and an intuitive empath.

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